A Quote by Eleanor Roosevelt

Here is a good one from my friend Michael D. Davis, who posted this on his Daily Chalkboard..

Love Is Not Blind

Building High Self-Esteem

I took this from a college class that I am taking, Human Relation – BA 220, taught by Professor Kinzel, and thought that it is appropriate for this blog. There is actually a lot here if you break it down and research the different pieces or elements for yourself, and find where you are (truthfully) and where you would like to be (realistically).

This outline was created for the workforce, but everything in it can be used and adapted for all aspects of your life. 

I. The Power of Self-Esteem

o    A. Self-esteem = self-efficacy + self-respect

o    B. How self-esteem develops

§  1. Childhood

§  2. Adolescence

§  3. Adulthood

§  a. The things we possess

§  b. What we do for a living

§  c. Our internal value system and emotional makeup

§  4. The past programs the future

II. Self-Esteem Influences Your Behavior

o    A. Characteristics of people with low self-esteem

§  1. They tend to maintain an external locus of control

§  2. They are more likely to participate in self-destructive behaviors

§  3. They tend to exhibit poor human relations skills

o    B. Characteristics of people with high self-esteem

§  1. They tend to maintain an internal locus of control

§  2. They are able to feel all dimensions of emotions without letting those emotions affect their behavior in a negative way

§  3. They are less likely to take things personally

§  4. They are able to accept other people as unique, talented individuals

§  5. They have a productive personality

III. How to Build Self-Esteem

·         A. Search for the source of low self-esteem

·         B. Identify and accept your limitations

·         C. Take responsibility for your decisions

·         D. Engage in strength building

o    1. Identify your dominant talents

·         E. Seek the support and guidance of mentors

o    1. Search for a mentor who has the qualities of a good coach

o    2. Market yourself to a prospective mentor

o    3. Set goals

·         F. Practice guided imagery

·         G. Use positive self-talk

o    1. Be specific

o    2. Use personal pronouns and present tense verbs

o    3. Describe the results you want to achieve, not what you do not want

IV. Organizations Can Help

·         A. Workers need to feel valued, competent, secure, empowered, and connected 

“I do not want to be completely satisfied. I think if this happens everything will be over.”

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I will stop doing thing the same old way...

“I will stop doing thing the same old way just because I like to play it safe.

I will be daring and courageous and refuse to allow fear to control my actions.”

-Lance Wubbels

This is what I wrote for my website link to this blog. I felt that it was very relevant and I wanted to share:

She Believed She Could So She Did – The Blog
    

First of all I am a man, a very confident man to say the least. So why would a man who is self-confident write a blog dedicated to the mental well-being of females (from young to old)?

Simple (or not so simple)…I have a wife and daughter who are the complete opposite of me when it comes to how they feel about themselves. I am part of that world through their eyes, their language, their actions, and while I truly don’t understand (nor will ever understand), I try to help them see the other side…the part that I see…all of the wonderful and exciting things that they have to offer the world.

With my eyes opened, I was able to see that my wife and daughter were not unique in their way of thinking, and in fact girls are taught to hate themselves at an early age. We did this, all of us, generations of us, and it’s nothing new (unfortunately it’s been around for many, many, many years). The good news is that we can change that…the generations today can break that cycle and create a positive environment, a positive self-view, and a truly and deeply love for themselves in who they are and what they can do…in every single person.

It won’t be easy, but the rewards are so great because not only does that positive change affect every girl and woman living today, but future generations as well.

It sounds like a big task, and that’s because it is. You are worth it!!!!

You’re not alone!!!!