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I will stop doing thing the same old way...
“I will stop doing thing the same old way just because I
like to play it safe.
I will be daring and courageous and refuse to allow fear to
control my actions.”
-Lance Wubbels
This is what I wrote for my website link to this blog. I felt that it was very relevant and I wanted to share:
She Believed She Could So She Did – The Blog
First of all I am a man, a very confident man to say the least. So why would a man who is self-confident write a blog dedicated to the mental well-being of females (from young to old)?
Simple (or not so simple)…I have a wife and daughter who are the complete opposite of me when it comes to how they feel about themselves. I am part of that world through their eyes, their language, their actions, and while I truly don’t understand (nor will ever understand), I try to help them see the other side…the part that I see…all of the wonderful and exciting things that they have to offer the world.
With my eyes opened, I was able to see that my wife and daughter were not unique in their way of thinking, and in fact girls are taught to hate themselves at an early age. We did this, all of us, generations of us, and it’s nothing new (unfortunately it’s been around for many, many, many years). The good news is that we can change that…the generations today can break that cycle and create a positive environment, a positive self-view, and a truly and deeply love for themselves in who they are and what they can do…in every single person.
It won’t be easy, but the rewards are so great because not only does that positive change affect every girl and woman living today, but future generations as well.
It sounds like a big task, and that’s because it is. You are worth it!!!!
You’re not alone!!!!
Simple (or not so simple)…I have a wife and daughter who are the complete opposite of me when it comes to how they feel about themselves. I am part of that world through their eyes, their language, their actions, and while I truly don’t understand (nor will ever understand), I try to help them see the other side…the part that I see…all of the wonderful and exciting things that they have to offer the world.
With my eyes opened, I was able to see that my wife and daughter were not unique in their way of thinking, and in fact girls are taught to hate themselves at an early age. We did this, all of us, generations of us, and it’s nothing new (unfortunately it’s been around for many, many, many years). The good news is that we can change that…the generations today can break that cycle and create a positive environment, a positive self-view, and a truly and deeply love for themselves in who they are and what they can do…in every single person.
It won’t be easy, but the rewards are so great because not only does that positive change affect every girl and woman living today, but future generations as well.
It sounds like a big task, and that’s because it is. You are worth it!!!!
You’re not alone!!!!
Self-Confidence
I was reading a posting from a fellow writer, Nick
Usborne, who wrote:
“When you lack self-confidence, you think stuff like, "I'm not ready. I'm not good enough. I can't do this." And when those thoughts fill your mind, you'll never have the courage to reach out for the best opportunities.”
Nick is absolutely right, but how does that help? How do you build self-confidence? One of the things that you need to do is look at reality…I mean be honestly and truthfully look at the reality of the situation.
“When you lack self-confidence, you think stuff like, "I'm not ready. I'm not good enough. I can't do this." And when those thoughts fill your mind, you'll never have the courage to reach out for the best opportunities.”
Nick is absolutely right, but how does that help? How do you build self-confidence? One of the things that you need to do is look at reality…I mean be honestly and truthfully look at the reality of the situation.
If you are saying that you are not good enough, who are
you comparing yourself to...honestly?
Now look at the reality of that situation. The person or
persons that you are comparing yourself to, are they really “good” at whatever
it is…truthfully? The honest answer is that they are probably NOT as good as YOU
think they are.
Sure some of us work really hard to get good at something
(no there is no such thing as perfect), but even those hard workers will put
their proverbial “best foot forward” and will always highlight the best version
of themselves.
Take anybody that you know or look up to…how do they
present themselves to the world? Let’s take Michael Jackson as an example. He
was in the media a lot for terrible things, but did he highlight those things?
If you went to Michael’s website, would it be filled with complaints and court
cases? No…it would highlight his awards, his albums, his tours…it would
highlight the best possible version of Michael Jackson. Now if there was no
media coverage, then we probably would have never have heard about this other
version of Michael. Just like there is no media coverage to show the other side
of the person that you are comparing yourself against.
Now let’s take it back to you. You are comparing yourself
to the best version of another person…not the real person, but the best version
of that person (the part that they want you and everyone else to see)…basically
you are comparing yourself to a really nice website.
It’s unfair, but very much reality. So how do you build
self-confidence? You start by looking at the reality of the situation. Do your
homework…do they really have talent, are they faking it, or is somewhere in the
middle? The honest answer is that they are probably NOT as good as YOU think
they are…they just present themselves well. Tuesday, February 3, 2015
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