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Insecurities aren’t just for teenagers; in fact, we all have them. Believe in yourself! See what other people see, and those insecurities will fall away. It takes work, but it is worth it. You are worth it!

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Be True to Yourself...

A Quote by Eleanor Roosevelt

Here is a good one from my friend Michael D. Davis, who posted this on his Daily Chalkboard..

Love Is Not Blind

Building High Self-Esteem

I took this from a college class that I am taking, Human Relation – BA 220, taught by Professor Kinzel, and thought that it is appropriate for this blog. There is actually a lot here if you break it down and research the different pieces or elements for yourself, and find where you are (truthfully) and where you would like to be (realistically).

This outline was created for the workforce, but everything in it can be used and adapted for all aspects of your life. 

I. The Power of Self-Esteem

o    A. Self-esteem = self-efficacy + self-respect

o    B. How self-esteem develops

§  1. Childhood

§  2. Adolescence

§  3. Adulthood

§  a. The things we possess

§  b. What we do for a living

§  c. Our internal value system and emotional makeup

§  4. The past programs the future

II. Self-Esteem Influences Your Behavior

o    A. Characteristics of people with low self-esteem

§  1. They tend to maintain an external locus of control

§  2. They are more likely to participate in self-destructive behaviors

§  3. They tend to exhibit poor human relations skills

o    B. Characteristics of people with high self-esteem

§  1. They tend to maintain an internal locus of control

§  2. They are able to feel all dimensions of emotions without letting those emotions affect their behavior in a negative way

§  3. They are less likely to take things personally

§  4. They are able to accept other people as unique, talented individuals

§  5. They have a productive personality

III. How to Build Self-Esteem

·         A. Search for the source of low self-esteem

·         B. Identify and accept your limitations

·         C. Take responsibility for your decisions

·         D. Engage in strength building

o    1. Identify your dominant talents

·         E. Seek the support and guidance of mentors

o    1. Search for a mentor who has the qualities of a good coach

o    2. Market yourself to a prospective mentor

o    3. Set goals

·         F. Practice guided imagery

·         G. Use positive self-talk

o    1. Be specific

o    2. Use personal pronouns and present tense verbs

o    3. Describe the results you want to achieve, not what you do not want

IV. Organizations Can Help

·         A. Workers need to feel valued, competent, secure, empowered, and connected 

“I do not want to be completely satisfied. I think if this happens everything will be over.”

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Crazy World

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I will stop doing thing the same old way...

“I will stop doing thing the same old way just because I like to play it safe.

I will be daring and courageous and refuse to allow fear to control my actions.”

-Lance Wubbels

This is what I wrote for my website link to this blog. I felt that it was very relevant and I wanted to share:

She Believed She Could So She Did – The Blog
    

First of all I am a man, a very confident man to say the least. So why would a man who is self-confident write a blog dedicated to the mental well-being of females (from young to old)?

Simple (or not so simple)…I have a wife and daughter who are the complete opposite of me when it comes to how they feel about themselves. I am part of that world through their eyes, their language, their actions, and while I truly don’t understand (nor will ever understand), I try to help them see the other side…the part that I see…all of the wonderful and exciting things that they have to offer the world.

With my eyes opened, I was able to see that my wife and daughter were not unique in their way of thinking, and in fact girls are taught to hate themselves at an early age. We did this, all of us, generations of us, and it’s nothing new (unfortunately it’s been around for many, many, many years). The good news is that we can change that…the generations today can break that cycle and create a positive environment, a positive self-view, and a truly and deeply love for themselves in who they are and what they can do…in every single person.

It won’t be easy, but the rewards are so great because not only does that positive change affect every girl and woman living today, but future generations as well.

It sounds like a big task, and that’s because it is. You are worth it!!!!

You’re not alone!!!!

Self-Confidence

I was reading a posting from a fellow writer, Nick Usborne, who wrote:

“When you lack self-confidence, you think stuff like, "I'm not ready. I'm not good enough. I can't do this." And when those thoughts fill your mind, you'll never have the courage to reach out for the best opportunities.”

Nick is absolutely right, but how does that help? How do you build self-confidence? One of the things that you need to do is look at reality…I mean be honestly and truthfully look at the reality of the situation.

If you are saying that you are not good enough, who are you comparing yourself to...honestly?

Now look at the reality of that situation. The person or persons that you are comparing yourself to, are they really “good” at whatever it is…truthfully? The honest answer is that they are probably NOT as good as YOU think they are.

Sure some of us work really hard to get good at something (no there is no such thing as perfect), but even those hard workers will put their proverbial “best foot forward” and will always highlight the best version of themselves.

Take anybody that you know or look up to…how do they present themselves to the world? Let’s take Michael Jackson as an example. He was in the media a lot for terrible things, but did he highlight those things? If you went to Michael’s website, would it be filled with complaints and court cases? No…it would highlight his awards, his albums, his tours…it would highlight the best possible version of Michael Jackson. Now if there was no media coverage, then we probably would have never have heard about this other version of Michael. Just like there is no media coverage to show the other side of the person that you are comparing yourself against.

Now let’s take it back to you. You are comparing yourself to the best version of another person…not the real person, but the best version of that person (the part that they want you and everyone else to see)…basically you are comparing yourself to a really nice website.

It’s unfair, but very much reality. So how do you build self-confidence? You start by looking at the reality of the situation. Do your homework…do they really have talent, are they faking it, or is somewhere in the middle? The honest answer is that they are probably NOT as good as YOU think they are…they just present themselves well.

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What is Normal?

 

 

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It’s okay to cry

 

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Love your own beauty!!!!

 

 

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YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!

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Some famous quotes from the great Thomas Edison:

·         "Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nice percent perspiration."

·         “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”

·         “Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

·         “We often miss opportunity because it's dressed in overalls and looks like work”

·         “If we all did the things we are capable of, we would astound ourselves.”

·         “When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this - you haven't.”

·         “To invent, you need a good imagination and a pile of junk.”

·         “Vision without execution is hallucination.”

·         “Negative results are just what I want. They’re just as valuable to me as positive results. I can never find the thing that does the job best until I find the ones that don’t.”

·         “There is always a better way.”

·         “This problem, once solved, will be simple.”

·         “There is time for everything.”

·         “I find out what the world needs. Then I go ahead and try to invent it”

·         “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed
is always to try just one more time.”

Poem - "Does Love Die"

by Chris Allred

Does Love Die

Does love die or fade away
Like a flower withering after given to another
Petals die and fall
Once flourished and bloomed in a sea of color

Does love change
Raging as a fire
Growing as it builds
Fueled by the heart
Consumed by another

Is love retreating
Pushing back
Fighting against want
Unable to truly move

Is love forever
Time stops
And Death moves away
For love is eternal
True love doesn’t die or fade away

Dream Bigger and Dream Often

Here are some inspirational quotes that focus on the dreamer (you); and that as the dreamer you can accomplish anything that you put your mind to, not in the fantasy world, but in reality. You can do anything…trust in yourself.

The first quote just happens to be from my Great-Great-Great-Great Aunt Laura (there might be one more great in there, but you get the point).

1.       “No one has ever achieved anything from the smallest to the greatest unless the dream was dreamed first.” - Laura Ingalls Wilder

2.       “Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.” - Henry David Thoreau

3.       “Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” - Harriet Tubman

4.       “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

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Do not give up…the beginning is always the hardest

 

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You Are Perfect!!!!

As a man I cannot fathom the struggles that a woman faces in her life, but as a husband and a father that is aware of the daily issues that the women in my life go through, all I can do is be supportive, understanding, and honest. You are perfect the way that you are, and when you honestly believe that, nobody can take that away from you.

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